How Important is Trust?

The first step for every healthy and happy relationship with our family or friends is - Trust! 

"To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved" - was rightly quoted by Scottish poet George MacDonald.

What are the important qualities to see in a person before trusting him/her?

Here is a list of qualities which I believe help build and maintain trust:

• Integrity: Honesty, truthfulness are essentials for trusting a person

• Reliability: It gives predictability of what a person does, stability and uniformity 

• Courage: A person who lacks courage will let you down in a crisis - so a brave heart is most trusted

• Character: It is important to have the right morals in life to be trusted

• Consistency: It increases confidence on that person

• Respect: to self and also towards others - It gives dignity and shows a caring attitude

• Acceptance: Ability and willingness to accepting both positives and negatives of others

• Openness: Shows your willingness to share your thoughts views and opinions and also listening to what others say

• Congruence: If a person says one thing and behaves differently, how can you trust that person? So, both his words and actions should harmonise.

• Fairness: Should be just and fair in life - free from any kinda bias or injustice

If you wanna be 100% trustworthy then you gotta have the Integrity, be reliable, be bold and courageous, have a good character, be consistent, respect others, accept others for what they are, be open, stand on your words, be congruent and be just and fair in everything you do.

Trust is the key for every relationship to be successful, healthy and happy, so trust wisely and always be trustworthy!! :)

Have a lovely evening!! :)

Take care :) 

Poem: Oh, She's so Beautiful!!! :)

Poem: Oh, She's so Beautiful!!! :)

I wake up with a vision 

Of her lovely smile

She's my shining sun 

from every direction

She carried away my heart

On the elegance of her earrings

Every time my heart takes a beat

She explores all the secrets within

And with every breath I take

She flows further into my being

When I try saving myself

From diving deeper into her thoughts

My soul whispers, "Wait! don't resist,

She's so sweet, Oh she's so beautiful!!!"

Charan xx

Hold on to your Dreams :)

Guess which is the most precious gift God gave mankind?

A Positive Attitude :)

Yes, trust me, if you are positive, you'll have the most amazing life!! :)

So, if ever you get a feeling that life is treating you with an overdose of unfairness, ponder deep within your inner self and you will discover why you have been given a tougher life. It's because you are blessed with the crucial key to success - the gift of being positive no matter what happens.

Grab that gift with both hands and thank your lucky stars cause a positive attitude is all you would need to handle whatever life throws at you.

Remember how true were Paulo Coelho's words in 'The Alchemist', "And, when you want something very badly, all the Universe conspires to make it come true." 

It actually nudges you in the right direction, so you can realise your dream. But you have to hold on fast and not change your mind half-way. Hold on till the day it becomes yours. And when it does, you will realise that the Universe was just waiting for you to be perfectly ready to enjoy it fully.

Follow your dreams and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls!!  :)

Your day will come, your dreams will come true and there would be a whole new world out there waiting eagerly for you - to celebrate your success with you!! :)

Have a wonderful day!! :)

A Good Listener is a Perfect Lover :)

"The first duty of love is to listen" - so if you wanna be a good lover, then you gotta be a good listener too :)

"An open ear is the only believable sign of an open heart", quoted author David Augsburger.

"So when you are listening to somebody, completely, attentively, then you are listening not only to the words, but also to the feeling of what is being conveyed, to the whole of it, not part of it." - quoted philosopher Jiddu Krishnamurti.

Dr. Rachel Remen, a pioneer in integrative medicine said,

"The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. And especially if it's given from the heart. When people are talking, there's no need to do anything but receive them. Just take them in. Listen to what they're saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it."

Now if you are wondering how to listen and love at the same time? Well let me try to explain you by sharing what I would do when a loved one has something to say.

If you are my loved one - my friend/family and you come to me and want me to listen to something you wanna say:

• I would first make you feel comfortable and would encourage you to talk

• Will give you my full attention while you are speaking and won't interrupt

• Will concentrate, understand and absorb everything you are saying to me and will ask appropriate and relevant questions wherever needed

• Will show my genuine interest in the subject you are talking about

• Will recognise the non-verbal communication as well - I mean the facial expressions, eye contect, etc

• What I am trying to say here is - I will listen to the feelings and not just words

Simply follow these steps and you'd notice how you can love your loved ones even more through listening!!! 

You have to listen sincerely with devotion and not pretend - caring should be true and straight from the heart only then it will touch the other person's heart.

I am here to patiently listen and understand everything you gotta say - says the listening ear :) 

Be a good listener and you'll become a perfect lover ;)

Enjoy your weekend!! 

Take care :)