Real Men do Exist...

Of course real men do exist...

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Watch the below video which shows how a real man cares for his woman:




Have a great week ahead!! :)

Cheers!! :)

What am I bringing to the table in my relationship?

Since the last 8 years of blogging, I've been writing posts, poems and letters on - love, romance and relationships. But there is always something new to share about love; cause it's true that love makes life beautiful :)

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If I were to start a relationship today, let me tell you what am I bringing to the table:

• Listen to her, understand her, accept her and will value her for who she really is

• Respect her time, space and her decisions in life

• Genuinely love her, care for her and will always give her my true affection

• Honestly appreciate and compliment her for all the good things she does

• She will always have 100% of her freedom and I will never boss her around

• Won't pressure her into anything that she doesn't want to do

• Sense of humour, laughter, playfulness and adventure to keep things upbeat and positive

• Being honest, trustworthy, fidelity, dependable, reliable, committed, loyal and devoted

• Will sing, play music, entertain and cook delicious meals for her

• Will work hard to provide a clean, cosy and comfy home for both of us and our families

• Give her confidence and will help her achieve all her dreams and goals in her life

• Will say prayers to God together with her - praying together as a couple

• Will maintain balance between being predictable and being randomly spontaneous to keep things fresh, engaging and exciting.

• Stick around when things get tough and will be her pillar of strength

• Will remember all her likes and dislikes, her favourite chocolates and pizza toppings

• Will cuddle and read books for her all Sunday afternoon to keep her happy

• Will make regular trips to the beach, cinema, travel on a boat, go for vacation on a cruise to keep her happy

• Passionate in providing physical affection; will be a sensual, attentive lover to lead a healthy, active, monogamous sex life

• Will provide her 100% security - both financially as well as personally

• Will support her in dealing with the complexities, ups and down of life, will make her feel safe and will be her protector

I strongly believe that all of the above lead to a very happy and healthy relationship!! :)

Have a great Sunday!! :)

Cheers!! :)

My definition of a Girl's Beauty...

A beautiful girl is one of the fine arts created by God.

Now tell me how do you measure a girl's beauty? 

A girl's beauty does not lie in the physical shape or figure of her body, not in her fair/tanned skin, not in her long hair, not in her perfect teeth, not in her weight, not in her height, not in her age, not in her slim legs, not in the dresses she wears, not in her name.

A girl's beauty lies in her mind, in her heart, in her soul, in her personality, in her smile, in her laughter, in the way she thinks and in the way she speaks.

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What makes a girl beautiful?

Her pure soul and her genuine smile which is a reflection of her soul makes a girl beautiful.

If a girl is reading this post - always remember that you are more than just your body - so focus on your inner happiness and don't worry on wearing make-up and most importantly choose a man who admires your personality, your heart and your soul.

If a guy is reading this post - always remember it doesn't matter if a girl is short or tall, if she has skinny legs or wide hips, what actually matters is what is inside her heart, what is inside her mind, what is inside her soul. Never judge a girl based on her physical body, you gotta learn her for what she truly is. Love her without makeup and understand that every freckle on her skin is beautiful.

Every girl must remember that, "You are the girl that some guy is praying for".

Have a great week!! :)

Cheers!! :)

Meaning of Life...

A meaningful life is not being rich, being popular, being highly educated or being perfect… it is about being real, being humble, being strong and being able to share ourselves and touch the lives of others. - quoted by unknown.

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What is the meaning of life?

To laugh often and much; 

To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; 

To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; 

To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; 

To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; 

To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded"

- Bessie A. Stanley 

Have a nice evening!! :)

Cheers!! :)

Mortal Consciousness... :)

Have you ever felt stressed? Due to work or exams or relationships?

Well, if you get the understanding of mortal consciousness, you will never feel any pressure from day-to-day life.

Life is too precious to waste in worrying. Life is beautiful and you need to always be happy :)

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Check the video below, you will love it:

The below post is an excerpt from - "Of Love and Life" - Juhi Chawla In Conversation with Sadhguru.

Sadhguru's words are thought-provoking, please check them below:

How many moments in a day are you conscious that you’re mortal?

The problem is you are living with an idea that you are immortal. When I say you’re immortal, you’re not actually thinking you’re immortal but you’re not conscious of your mortality.

"If you’re conscious that you are mortal you will stop worrying and would do nothing other than what is absolutely needed for you and everybody around you."

If you just become conscious of this one thing that always you’re conscious that “I’m mortal,” you don’t have to think “I will die today.” We don’t intend, we want to live as far as possible, just you know “One day I will die.” If you’re just conscious of this one thing you will naturally become spiritual.

If you see that you’re mortal, naturally over a period of time every day, every moment if you remind yourself this is a brief life “I am mortal, one day I will end,” you will see turning spiritual.

They would become fantastic. Just do this for two days and see you will become something truly fantastic within yourself just this is all.

Mortality makes you want to know what is the nature of your existence. You really want to know where you came from, where you will go only when it sinks into you all this drama pup – one day it will end but right now you think only others appear in obituary columns.

"If you want to know the value of life just know that it’s a brief happening."

See the time, the time that you spend here as life it’s a very relative experience. If you’re truly joyful and ecstatic, it’s horribly brief, believe me.

But on a particular day if you’re depressed or miserable, one day seems like an endless thing. So, only miserable people have a long life. If you’re a joyful, ecstatic person life is always brief, if you live to be hundred it’s still very brief.

For what possibilities a human being carries, for the immensity of what a human being is – it’s too brief a life. If you’re given hundred years, two hundred years it’s still, still too brief because before you know what’s happening before you explore a few dimensions of life it’ll be over. It’ll be over, okay.

The most important thing that’s happening in your life right now is that - you’re alive, nothing else.

For millions of people somebody who is dear to them did not wake up today. So just check the five or six people around you who mean the world to you - if they all woke up - Wow! It’s a fantastic day.

You woke up and everybody who matters to you around you woke up, is it not fantastic day?

Of all the people who go to bed tonight, not everyone will wake up tomorrow morning and if you wake up tomorrow morning, is it not a fantastic thing? You woke up, you are still alive is it not a great thing?

You need to celebrate and enjoy every moment of your life because life does not wait for you even for a moment.

Remember that your time on this earth is limited, so make the most of it!! :)

Have a great week ahead!! :)

Cheers!! :)

Secret to Ultimate Freedom...

On my birthday last year, I took a resolution, "To live my life without expecting anything from anyone." It was a hard to follow, I broke it a few times but re-assured myself and continued to follow it and now after a year I enjoy the satisfaction and inner bliss I enjoy and that is the reward I got from expecting nothing. :)

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Expectation is indeed the root of all heartache - try to give up expectations and your life is pure bliss!! :)

A life without expectations is the secret to ultimate freedom - wonder why?

Well, if you don't expect anything, you are liberated cause you are not worried anymore because your desires don't control you. You are free from the outcome of anything in life - cause you are willing to accept both good or bad equally. That way you will continue to remain in the state of happiness irrespective of whether your desires are getting fulfilled or not.

The moment you stop expecting anything from anyone, your body turns calm and is always at peace. You need not go for a vacation to relax, cause you are always in a state of relaxation. You are no longer frustrated or angry or disappointed or sad because they are the result of expectation and occur when things don’t work as planned.

Benefits include:

• Low stress 
• Happier relationships
• Beautiful inner peace

Do what you have to do as normal in life and leave the rest to God.

You must have noticed that since last year, I've stopped sharing my singing videos here on my blog. I still enjoy singing the same as before and I do sing on most weekends but I can't be bothered to record anything anymore cause I don't worry about sharing it with anybody. I need not impress anyone. I just sing for my own happiness.

Be satisfied with what you have already got. When you get up in the morning, you are able to breathe well and whatever good you are eating is getting digested properly - that should be enough for you, that is the greatest achievement, that is the greatest goal. If your health is great, the rest come next.

The satisfaction that you are existing, this moment you are alive, this moment you are surviving without the support of any device - what else would you need apart from that?  Then, as the next step, you go out and you do whatever you have to do in the outside world.

The real achievement is that you are able to enjoy the most wonderful energies which nature has given us - Air, Water, Fire and Earth. If you have that satisfaction that you have a capable body to enjoy nature's resources, the rest is all a bonus. It is a gift that you are surviving - you need to have that satisfaction first.

Then, yes you can have many other smaller goals to achieve in the material world. Knowing about yourself must be your first desire after that you can have a thousand other desires. Without knowing about yourself, you learn about others, the world around you. So, first start learning about your own self and understand the soul within you.

Coming to my smaller desires - the two dreams of my life were to work for my dream company and meet my soulmate. After gaining years of work experience, I feel confident that I shall have a stable career. The only desire I had was to find a girlfriend and was hoping to meet my soulmate. But I understood that it doesn't work like that, love happens when it has to happen, so I realised there's no point in searching for love, so I let that desire go. I believe God has a plan for my life and when the time is right, I shall meet my girl, until then, I shall enjoy my life and carry on without any expectations.

I was hoping to continue friendship with all the girls whom I had crushes on since childhood. But as I've stopped expecting anything, I told myself that I shouldn't expect even their friendship. I wished them well in my mind and in my prayers and freed them off from my mind. I let them fly away and my heart feels feather light.

After more than 5 years of living in Britain and experiencing the western culture, I realised that marriage is a choice in life and not a necessity. So, I shall only choose it after a long relationship, spending enough time living with the girl, knowing her, understanding her and I shall make a call only if I believe that I could see a future together, else I shall carry on and meet somebody else. Life goes on. Of course I have hand-written letters for my future wife - but that doesn't make marriage an obligation to me. If it happens, let it happen, else, I shall still love and be happy in life - either way is ok.

Live in the present and enjoy each day like a blessing!! :)

Have a great week!! 

Cheers!! :)

Life Lessons...Happiness...

Continued from Life Lessons...

Happiness is always within you, discover it and you'll love your life :)

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You are born to be happy, yes your original nature is happiness.

Never take life too serious, but always be sincere in what you do.

Everything around us is temporary, but the happiness within your soul is permanent, so discover it and enjoy the bliss within :)

Every morning after you wake up, be happy for:

• Being able to breathe
• For having good health
• You are alive this moment
• You are able to survive on your own without any support

Be grateful to God and go ahead and do whatever you have to do in the outside world.

Hope you are having a lovely long Bank Holiday weekend!! :)

Be happy and enjoy life!! :)

Cheers!! :)

Life Lessons...

"Life Lessons..." is a new series of posts through which I am going to share random lessons which I have learned from the experiences in my life. These posts will be a combination of quotes, pictures and my thoughts.

"JAQUES:

All the world's a stage,

And all the men and women merely players:

They have their exits and their entrances;

And one man in his time plays many parts,"

- William Shakespeare, As You Like It, 1600

Life is like a play - we merely go through the stages of our life acting it out. So, worrying is a waste of time. Always be happy and love your life.

And wherever you go, leave a heart print. Remember Maya Angelou's quote?

“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

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What do you do when you feel sad or down?

You gotta keep going knowing that it will only get better. Look forward to the time you would feel good again and that will help you to stay strong.

Life isn't always easy, it's about being brave. Never waste energy feeling bad about yourself, surround yourself with people whom you want to be with and keep moving foward.

With this philosophy, regardless of your obstacles, you can have a very happy life :)

Be brave to make a choice, take that chance and grab the opportunity to change your life.

Also, how long will you wait for something to happen? 

Never leave it until it is too late. Just do it now and gain the happiness of trying something new.

Life is too short to wait and ponder, good/bad - just go for it and break all the rules!!! Dare to be your true self, be original and be different!!! 

On a concluding note, I'd like to mention about the meteor shower :) Perseid activity started from 9th August and continues through to the 15th of August. Watch the meteor shower tonight and make a wish :)

Well, I don't believe in such superstitions but I encourage making a wish while watching a light streak because the wish will register strongly in your mind and you will eventually be self-motivated to walk in that path and will work to make your wish come true :)

Also, wishes for simple happiness generate loads of positive vibes within your system. Enjoy making silly little wishes on each light streak you see. Some of them hung in the sky like kite tails, with streamers of light. Stare at the clear night sky, you will feel that you are part of the thousands of stars and constellations up there in the universe.

Have a great weekend!!! :)

Cheers!!! :)

5 Things I look for in a Girl...Part 2

Continued from 5 Things I look for in a Girl...Part 1

I dunno if you'd got the chance to completely read Part 1, I know it's long, well I didn't intend to write so much on the first point but to me forgiveness is the key to a healthy relationship.

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Anyway, I shall keep this post brief, below are my list of 5 things I look for in a girl:

1.) Forgiveness: We've discussed this in Part 1.

2.) Genuine Openness:

My girl being open and genuine to me would mean a lot to me cause I am genuine too. Genuinity/honesty is important in close relationships cause it is the foundation on which trust is built.

By saying openness, I mean being open-minded. If a person is open it is very easy to communicate with them because they share everything - they express feelings, thoughts, dreams and desires, which allows you to truly know them. Open people are very approachable when you got something to say.

3.) Trustworthy:

Trust, reliability, dependability - is to have that confidence in my girl and to be able to feel warm, comfortable and safe with her both physically and emotionally. Trust is something that two people in a relationship continue to build together and as the relationship progresses, mutual trust will work with mutual respect to bond them even closer leading to stronger commitment in the relationship.

4.) Romantic:

If both the couple are romantic, then you needn't wait for 14th Feb, cause every single day's gonna be a Valentine's day. Romance adds excitement and happy surprises in a relationship. Also romance pampers both physical and emotional intimacy between the two lovers.

Choosing randomly from the date night jar will make the date more adventurous.

Going out on date nights with your partner, enjoying a meal together, sharing a hug, a kiss or a simple peck on the cheek - anything romantic is gonna spice up the relationship.

5.) Sense of humour

Having a good sense of humor definitely improves closeness between both the lovers and in case of misunderstanding, the tense moments can be lighted up easily. Being able to laugh makes life much easier and to be able to laugh with a loved one is life’s greatest joy.

I've got good sense of humour and if my girl has too, then we can make each other laugh. I believe that if both the lovers can laugh out loud together then they can easily solve any sensitive topic that might arise on the long-run in a relationship. Couple need to be playful and teasing which will help them easily defuse any potentially volatile situations with their humor.

So, to conclude, I am looking for a girl who is forgiving, genuine and open-minded, trustworthy, romantic and has a good sense of humour :)

What are the 5 things that you look for or have already found in your partner? It would be interesting to read, so please share them in the comments column.

Have a great day!! :) Cheers :) 

5 Things I look for in a Girl...Part 1

Over the years I've been writing a lot on love, romance and relationships, but this particular post is more personal cause I am gonna share the qualities I am looking for in a girl/girlfriend. Beyond Barriers... is a diary of my life, someday I will look back at these pieces of writing and will cherish them as memories.

I am gonna write the 5 things as series of posts just to avoid a single post running into too many pages. So, welcome to the series, below is part 1 :)

Disclaimer: Everything I discuss here is purely based on my personal opinion and choice and do not reflect social norms.

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"It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife." - Jane Austen,  Pride and Prejudice. 

I can relate to this quote cause I am single and looking to meet the right girl and although I'm not in possession of riches, I am hard working, ambitious and self-confident that I am gonna have a stable and progressive career :) 

Below are the 5 things I look for in a girl:

1. Forgiveness
2. Genuine Openness
3. Trustworthy
4. Romantic
5. Sense of humour

1.) Forgiveness:

The ability to forgive is the first and the most important attribute I look for in a girl with whom I'd want to start a relationship.

Forgiveness is a blessing to mankind. It is a sign of strength and not weakness. Remember Mark Twain's beautiful quote, "Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

My expectation of her forgiveness is only for silly, small day-to-day mistakes which we all make inadvertently. I don't expect forgiveness for blunders done deliberately/intentionally cause I wouldn't do them anyway.

And just because she is forgiving, doesn't mean that I will keep on repeating my mistakes - Nah! I would love her too much to ever hurt her.

Forgiveness comes 1st in my list because we all lead busy stressful lives where there is a scope for error cause nobody is perfect. 

Doesn't matter how much you both have in common, over the long-run it is the understanding that counts and if both the guy and girl are forgivers, they can build a very healthy and happy relationship.

Last year one of my colleagues looked stressed one morning and when asked why, he shared an incident with our team and told us that his girlfriend doesn't forgive easily. She is harsh on him for small errors. And every time there is a misunderstanding between the couple, it's very stressful for him cause it takes a lot of effort from his side to get the relationship back to normal and that stress reflects in his work life.

The other day, I mentioned to him that I am writing a blog post and would like to give the experience he shared with our team as an example for a blog post. He said that I am more than welcome to use his experience but told me not to mention any names.

To respect his privacy, I wouldn't mention any names and I have changed the story to make myself as the first person and also changed the items that were part of the original story. But the misunderstanding/unforgiving part remains unchanged.

Here's my fictional example of forgiving and unforgiving girls:

Assume me and my missus live together in a house in a beautiful village which is located on the outskirts of the city. And as there is no store at a walk-able distance, so we normally visit the supermarket once every weekend to buy all the required stuff for the week. And last weekend we were unable to visit the store cause of a friend's birthday party.

On Monday morning she gives me a list of things to buy as the super market is closer to my workplace and asks if I can visit the store after finishing work and get few bits and pieces that will do us for the rest of the week until we go for our main shop over the weekend. I agree with her idea and she says, "Make sure you don't forget my shampoo, it is important".

My side of the story:

I go to work and that day happens to be a worse day with unexpected topics arising which require urgent solution and I run around all day resolving issues and get stressed and I end up finishing an hour late and I am completely knackered.

I text my missus asking, "I am very tired, been a bad day at work, so not in a mood to do any shopping. Is there anything urgent? Can that shampoo wait until tomorrow? I will defo buy all the stuff on the list after work tomorrow, is that alright?".

She doesn't reply to my text. Then I give a ring and she doesn't pick up. So I decide to make my own decision to skip the shopping and return home.

I am in the middle of driving and my phone rings as I am stuck in the middle of traffic I am unable to pull off the road and pick her call, so I don't pick the call and just continue driving home.

I park my car, check the missed call and walk into the house.

Her side of the story:

She is back from work, she had a phone call from one of her best friends so she ends up talking longer on phone than normal. Then she goes to take a shower.

Once she is out of shower, she notices the missed call and text. Checks it and finds out that I am not going to the supermarket. She realizes she ran out of shampoo and tomorrow she has an important meeting at work where she is supposed to give a presentation so she definitely needs to wash her hair in the morning - to look good and feel good. That presentation is very important to her cause it can possible get her a promotion if the management are impressed.

She tries to ring me telling me to bring her the particular brand of shampoo which she uses cause it is important to her for to use it the next day morning. I don't pick my phone and she wonders if I am driving.

Now I am back home - now let us look at the difference in two types of girls: one who is forgiving (FG) and the other who is unforgiving (UFG).

I walk into my house and knock on the door. She opens the door. Like our normal routine - she gives me a kiss as soon as I walk in - we normally kiss when we are back home.

FG: How are you doing? You look knackered, I got your text but sorry I was in the shower, I tried to ring you back but you didn't pick.

Me: Yeah been a very stressful day at work. I'm sorry I didn't know you were in the shower, I couldn't pick your call as I was driving. You are not normally in the shower at that time, you finish earlier than that, don't you?

FG: Yeah, I normally do but today I had a call from my best friend and I spoke to her longer than usual. I forgot to mention this morning that I have a meeting tomorrow and I need to give a presentation and I need to wash my hair but I completely ran out of shampoo. Hence the reason I said shampoo was important. How I wish I had told you about my meeting and you would've brought the shampoo on your way back - may be from another store.

Me: I am very sorry I didn't know about your meeting, else I'd have visited the supermarket for you. I wish I had waited for your call back before I started driving back home.

FG: How I wish I had planned my stuff properly, I don't know what to do now.

She looks upset. And it would break my heart to see her sad, I can't bear to see her upset.

Me: Let me take a shower and then we'll go out for dinner and on our way back we'll buy your shampoo.

FG: No, don't worry I've already prepared food sufficient for both of us. I don't want it to go in waste.

Me: Ok, let's finish our dinner first then we shall go out for a chocolate dessert/ice cream and on our way back we'll get the shampoo.

FG: But you had a busy day, you are tired and why do you wanna waste fuel driving all the way to the town.

Me: That drive is well worth our money cause I can spend my time with my princess and we can get some fresh air, feel relaxed and we also get to enjoy our dessert in a pub. And shampoo is only a bonus cause we gonna buy it on our way back.

FG: !!Laughs!! Sounds like a plan. We understand each other so well, we are indeed a perfect team.

So, with a forgiving girl, I believe I can have a very understanding relationship cause I am forgiving too and generous as well.

Now let me briefly mention what the unforgiving girl would do.

I knock the door, she opens the door and walks away. Doesn't give a kiss and when I walk close to her, try to hold her for a kiss, she sulks, turns her face away and walks away from me. She is in a mood, grumpy, angry and ready to complain. When I tell her that I had a bad day at work and that I am not aware of her meeting. She starts

UFG: When I gave you the list this morning, I clearly told you that shampoo was most important.

Me: I agree you said it was important but you didn't tell me you need it to use tomorrow morning for the meeting. I thought you said it was important that I don't forget it. But I didn't knew there was a deadline.

UFG: You don't give a shit about me and my stuff. You sent a text and called me when I was in shower, so couldn't you have waited 5 minutes before driving back home, don't you know I normally call back as soon as I check my phone? 

Me: But why were you in the shower that late? Normally you finish early don't you?

UFG: I was on phone with my friend but do I really need to justify to you on what I do at home? And on what time I need to take a shower, that's my wish. Couldn't you have pulled off the road and picked my phone call. I don't mean anything to you. Blah........blah..........blah......... 

Me: Her words piss me off so much that I say, "Ok, I accept it was my mistake that I didn't get it, get ready now and we will go to dinner and on our way back we'll buy the shampoo".

UFG: "Forget it, I've already prepared food and I am in no mood to go out for dinner with you after what you did. You love work more than me, you are a workaholic. Even I work hard and doesn't mean that I just postpone things from my personal life.

I try to be patient and not lose my cool over such a small topic.

UFG: I am going out now myself and will get the shampoo. What a waste of my fuel. You said you are tired so you stay home. It is better I get my own stuff from now on and not depend on you. If you are hungry, eat your portion of the food and I will eat mine when I'm back".

Me: Why would you say that, didn't I ever do/get anything for you? Let's have dinner together and then we shall both go out together for a dessert. We can get some fresh air, relax a bit and spend sometime together at the pub and then we shall get the shampoo on our way back home.

UFG: Forget it, by the time we eat dinner and then go for a dessert and then buy the shampoo, it'll be late and I want to go to bed early tonight cause I need to sleep enough to feel fresh tomorrow for my presentation.

I've got no energy to continue this discussion and didn't want to turn it into an argument. So I keep quiet.

Me: Ok, do whatever pleases you.

She will go buy shampoo and because I am too hungry and couldn't wait to eat something - I end up having dinner on my own. And when I lay on the couch watching TV, she'll be back home and again is grumpy. She eats her dinner without speaking a word to me and goes to bed.

Whereas a forgiving girl would forgive easily - hence avoiding a lot of misunderstandings. She spends the evening with me. We'll have a dessert together and as we walk on the High Street, she notices in the display a pair of beautiful earrings which I promise to buy for her upcoming birthday - she is super excited. She is happy and in turn I find my happiness within her happiness.

Next morning:

Relationship with an Unforgiving Girl: Stress builds up in the relationship cause she is daft and fussy about everything and reacts to every silly mistake. She still loves me the same, so even she feels stressed by what happened yesterday evening. And I love her too and feel guilty for not having done the shopping. That stress will reflect at work for both of us. I'll go to office and am not fully efficient and she gives her presentation, makes errors because she is still mad at me.

Relationship with a Forgiving Girl: We both are happy at work cause we've got nothing to worry about the relationship and she gives a fantastic presentation cause her heart is full of love from me and she is a very optimistic and positive person. She will smile whenever she remembers the jokes I told her during having our dessert and she is thankful and joyful that I have promised to buy her those beautiful earrings which she wants to have.

Forgiveness is an important characteristic in every human being - both guys and girls. A forgiving partner will not let any bad incident create a disturbance in their relationship.

They will listen to what you have to honestly say and will try and understand what kinda circumstances led you to make the mistake and if they trust that you are telling the truth, they will forgive you. And you gotta make up for your mistake by giving them double the happiness to compensate the pain/discomfort you had caused them.

If two people are willing to forgive each other, life's gonna be simple and happy, cause in case of conflict of ideas, things could be resolved easily cause they are willing to pardon each other as they love the relationship more than their ego.

Have a great evening. See you later in Part 2 :)

Cheers!! :)

I Love Genuine Souls...

Yes I do. I am genuine and I love everyone and everything that is genuine!!! 

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And yes, I am a self-proclaimed, "Genuine Soul".

Well, ask me why?

• Cause I'm honest, real, trustworthy and authentic soul. A man who is free from deceit and sincerely feels and expresses himself.
• I've got nothing to hide, nothing to cover up, nothing to fake.
• I make a lot of mistakes, but realise and accept them.
• I'm not perfect and I can be rubbish at certain things but I can be the best too - I'm just as human when it comes to failing, learning and growing wiser.
• I choose my thoughts and actions based on values and not for personal gain.
• I'm confident of who I am, I follow my beliefs, have my own opinions and speak straight from my heart. 
• If I care for you, then I'm there for you no matter what - doesn't matter how you look like, doesn't matter what you do for a living, doesn't matter how much money you have - I'll be there for you once I commit.
• I walk into work and everyone greets me with smiles and enthusiastic hellos. I shake everyone’s hand, get pats on the back, and just my presence leaves the entire place feeling more uplifted. I'm friends with everyone and my boss appreciates everything that I do.

Well, I gotta stop bragging about myself now, I do that sometimes just to feel happy about myself - I do that to remind myself that I need not change - I need to just carry on the way I am.

The other day I was talking to my Mum and phone and she told me she is sad to see me single and she likes me to have a girlfriend. I started talking to her about all the girls I had crush on since childhood and in some corner of my heart I still have a place where I hold a memory of each and every one of those girls smiles.

Then I started talking about the girl I had crush on for years and I told my Mum how much I miss her and it is so unreal that she doesn't have any kinda feelings for me. I talked about the quote, "When you want something really bad, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it." - I always believed these words in my life and they came true in every case except love. For some reason, the universe doesn't listen to me about love.

I talked about my crush for almost half an hour. And my Mum patiently listened, took a pause and she said, "You told me you moved on, but looks like you still love her, don't you?". 

And I said, "I wish my heart listened to me, but it has a mind of it's own".

Below are some pictures from my favourite "positive vibes" personal collection folder:

Genuine Smiles - Photo Owner and Copyrighted by: Sudhirramchandran

Have a great Friday!!! :)

Take care :) 

Love yourself first...

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. - Lucille Ball

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Recently read the below story, thought it is worth sharing:

A man went to God and asked, "What is the value of life?"

God gave him a stone and said, "Find out the value of this stone, but don't sell it."

The man took the stone to an orange seller and asked him what it's cost would be.

The orange seller saw the shiny stone and said, "You can take 12 oranges and give me the stone."

The man apologized and said that the God has asked him not to sell it.

He went ahead and found a vegetable seller. "What could be the value of this stone?" he asked the vegetable seller. The seller saw the shiny stone and said, "Take one sack of potatoes and give me the stone."

The man again apologized and said he can't sell it.

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Further ahead, he went into a jewelry shop and asked the value of the stone.

The jeweler saw the stone under a lens and said, "I'll give you 50 lakh rupees for this stone." When the man shook his head, the jeweler said, "Alright, alright, take 2 crores, but give me the stone."

The man explained that he can't sell the stone. Further ahead, the man saw a precious stone's shop and asked the seller the value of this stone.

When the precious stone's seller saw the big ruby, he lay down a red cloth and put the ruby on it. Then he walked in circles around the ruby and bent down and touched his head in front of the ruby.

"From where did you bring this priceless ruby from?" he asked. "Even if I sell the whole world, and my life, I won't be able to purchase this priceless stone from you".

Stunned and confused, the man returned to God and told him what had happened. 

"Now tell me what is the value of life, God?" he asked.

God said, "The answers you got from the orange seller, the vegetable seller, the jeweler & the precious stone's seller explain the value of life." 

"You may be a precious stone, even priceless, but people may value you based on their level of information, their belief in you, their motive behind entertaining you, their ambition, and their risk-taking ability. But don't fear, you will surely find someone who will discern your true value."

In the eyes of God you are very very precious. Respect yourself. You are Unique. No one can Replace you!

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Have a great day!! 

Cheers!! 

Honest Talk...Part 3

Continued from Honest Talk...Part 2

I know you want me to scream your name, but I want to whisper your name into the soft skin of your jawline, into the tender throb of your neck's pulse, into the nook where your neck meets your shoulder. I want you to remember the hiss of my breathe and the way my lips form your name until it caresses your very existence.

Courtesy of all the pictures in this post : Google Images 

Little things you do for her makes a lot of difference. Like: 

• Actually listening to what she says.
• Sharing everything with her without needing to keep any secrets cause you both accept each other the way you truly are.
• Taking her for a date night where you make her feel like a princess and pay attention to only her.
• Smile at her across a crowded room.
• Opening doors for her.
• Cooking together.
• When she is washing the dishes, grab the kitchen towel and start drying the dishes and slowly hold her from behind and kiss her neck.
• Watching her favourite program on TV together.

Doing all this is truly worth the effort cause she will appreciate everything.

It might sound easy to say but is it really hard to put into practice? Well, if you really love your girl, you will do anything to make her happy.

Ok, now you ask me what will I do for my girlfriend?

I will...

• Buy her favourite flowers and will make a customized bouquet instead of a store-bought one.

• Put socks and trainers on for her in the sports shop when she can't bend down to do it herself.

• Give her a gentle massage when she is tired. Will turn our home to a mini spa by applying relaxing massage lotion to her hands and feet. Massaging her neck, back and legs without expecting anything in return.

• Leave little sticky notes for her to find when she comes back home.

• Take her out to romantic candle-lit dinners and walks along the beach in bright sunshine.

• Show her that my love is true cause I'll always be there for her even after knowing her flaws and will be there for her during the not so great times. I will make her realize that no partnership is perfect but you get on with it and support each other and respect your differences, be intimate and learn to laugh together.

• Watch the date night movies cuddled nice and comfy on the couch.

• Cook her favourite dishes and on weekends, will serve breakfast in bed for us and will do lots of barbeques in the summer 

And in future, when we decide to have our baby and when she's pregnant: 

• I will give her 100% comfort and nothing less. Will clean the house, will cook for the family, wash the dishes, dry the dishes, will do the laundry, will buy the required weekly groceries.

• Will bring her books that she likes to read, DVDs of movies that she wants to watch and the food that she likes to eat.

• Will sit next to her on the bed, holding her hand when she goes into labor and will do everything to make her feel safe and confident.

• Once we have the baby, will wake up in the night to feed the baby, will wake up early in the morning to prepare food for both the mother and the baby for the day so I can go to work and will do the same after returning home from work. Will give them the same care until she completely heals and is back to normal.

• And will hold my new born baby closest to my heart - that will be the biggest joy of my life.

What is unique characteristic every true lover should have?

Well, you should never fold under the pressure of  a committed relationship on the long run. You need to always have mutual trust, care, mutual respect and compromise only wherever necessary.

Never quit when it gets a little tough. That’s when you'll know you’ve found something special. Something real. Something worth keeping. Anybody can love anybody when things are good - the real test of character is when things are tough and you should still continue to love the same.

Let's talk more in Honest Talk...Part 4. See you later.

Have a great week ahead,

Cheers!! :)