Honest Talk...Part 2

Continued from Honest Talk...Part 1

I strongly believe that the key for a happy relationship is "communication".

Conversation is very important cause it develops the connection between the two. It gives a deeper comprehension of each other. So in case problems or misunderstandings arise, the honest communication helps you to discuss and explore solutions in an early stage.

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As weekdays are always busy, make sure to spend the weekends together - go for a lazy long walk, talk for hours, give time to think about each other, enjoy dinner together and continue to chat away. Or spend all of Friday evening and night reading a novel together in bed, watch a movie and talk to each other, share experiences of the week - be it happy or sad moments - it will all help to strengthen your bond.

Reading a novel out for her or may be just hold it close so both of you can together read silently

Sometimes it is hard to find time to communicate when there is so much going on in our daily lives, especially with work - but it is definitely worth taking the time out.

"Cause here we are again in the middle of the night dancing 'round the kitchen in the refrigerator light"

Always reach out and touch each other even during times when you both feel hopeless. Try making it a compulsory rule to hug each other after a disagreement or an argument. After every misunderstanding both feel bad but swallow your pride and give each other a close bear hug even if you just had an argument. The hug will make you both forgive each other quickly.

"You're a bit close," she whispered. "I know," he grinned. He was right in front of her. Barely a breaths width between them. But not touching. The sky began to mist down on them but neither moved. She was trapped. By some spell. Keeping her eyes and body locked into place. A slow smile appeared out of nowhere and creeped up her face, "You gonna do something, or just stand there?". She thought he'd move away. Break the spell. He didn't.

Make her laugh outdoors

Make her laugh indoors

Most importantly, make her laugh in bed...

Gotta go now, so let's continue our talk later, see you in Honest Talk...Part 3

Take care until then,

Have a nice week ahead,

Cheers!! :) 

Honest Talk...Part 1

Welcome to the first part of a series of very honest talks wherein I talk about love, romance and relationships - will share most of my favourite quotes and random things which I've learned by observing the world around me, reading books and my attempt to understand this beautiful journey called life.

Pardon me for the errors in my writing. Those who've been reading this blog for a while are aware of the fact that my English isn't perfect but my aim is to express my thoughts, views, opinions and ideas in a simple, clear and easy to understand manner.

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Is there a secret or magic formula to have a relationship like how they show in films, TV or novels? Well, I mean the fairy tale kinda love where the knight in shining armour rescues damsel in distress, they fall in love and live happily ever after.

Have you ever thought such love is practically possible? I'd say why not. But I am afraid they don't happen using a magic wand but they are possible through mutual respect and hard work. 

I remember reading about how to have a lasting high-quality relationship. The author gave a simple yet brilliant answer : "Think of what is best for the relationship first, the children second, your partner third, yourself fourth and the rest of the world absolutely last."

Never call each other a nasty name, never fight in public or in front of others, never cheat on the other, always be honest and open with each other - then sure there is a possibility to have a fantastic relationship.

Let me share a dialogue from the 2014 movie I Origins. Well, I didn't watch the movie, so not sure in which context these lines were said but the lines are romantic.

Ian: I do believe we've known each other since forever.

Sofi: Really?

Ian: Yes. You know how? When the Big Bang happened, all the atoms in the universe were all smashed together into one little dot that exploded outward, so my atoms and your atoms were certainly together then and... who knows, probably smashed together several times in the last 13.7 billion years, so my atoms have known your atoms and they've always known your atoms. My atoms have always loved your atoms.

In the world around me, I've noticed two types of relationships : 

1st type: Man who puts in a minimal effort in the relationship and the woman serves as the pillar of their marriage, taking on most of the domestic, care-taking and child caring responsibilities.

2nd type: Man who invests all his time and efforts into true partnership with his woman. Shares all responsibilities equally - actively participates in domestic household chores, care-taking of the family and in raising the children. Appreciates his woman, gives her freedom, her space and treats her to surprise dinners.

I was born in a family where both my parents and grandparents belong to the 2nd type, so as a child I used to believe that type 2 is the norm in every household. But when I came across examples of type 1, I've realized the stress in those relationships. 

Both the partners are on the journey, so they need to work together, help each other, mentor one and another, discover each other and in process turn into better people - that is the key for a blissful life :)

Well, I've gotta cook my dinner now, so let's continue this talk in Part 2.

Let me conclude this part by sharing the points I like from American author, Robin McKinley's, "8 Ways to Say I Love You".

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I like points 2, 3 and 4, cause they resonate with my kinda thought process.

2. Sigh it into her mouth, wedged in between teeth and tongues. Don’t even let your lips move when you say it, ever so lightly, into the air. Maybe it was just an exhalation of ecstasy.

3. Buy her flowers. Buy her chocolate. Buy her a teddy bear, because that’s what every romantic comedy has taught you. Take her out to a nice restaurant where neither of you feel comfortable and spend the whole night clearing your throat and tugging at your tie. Feel like your actions are more suited to a proposal than the simple confession of something you’ve always known.

4. Whisper it into her hair in the middle of the night, after you’ve counted the space between her breaths and are certain she’s asleep. Shut your eyes quickly when she shifts toward you in askance. Maybe you were just sleep whispering.

But, points 6 and 8 are funny:

6. Write her a letter in which the amount of circumnavigating and angst could rival Mr. Darcy’s. Debate where to leave it all day – on her pillow? In her coat pocket? Throw it away in frustration, conveniently leaving it face up in the trashcan, her name scrawled on the front in your sloppy handwriting. Let her wonder if you meant it.

8. Say it deliberately, your tongue a springboard for every syllable. Over coffee, brushing your teeth side-by-side, as you turn off the light to go to sleep – it doesn’t matter where. Do not adorn it with extra words like “I think” or “I might.” Do not sigh heavily as if admitting it were a burden instead of the most joyous thing you’ve ever done. Look her in the eyes and pray, heart thumping wildly, that she will turn to you and say, “I love you too.”

See you later in Honest Talk...Part 2. Until then, take care.

Have a nice week. :)

Cheers :) 

Yay, It's Friday!!! :)

Weekend is finally here and it's time to relax, have a laugh and enjoy!! 

Below images contain swear words which I use with my close friends all the time but if swear words offend you then please leave this post now and you are welcome to come back to read my next decent post tomorrow.

Trust me, out of experience I tell you that swear words lighten the heart and as long as you know how and when to use them - not to abuse others but purely for fun during conversations with your friends, you will only end up rolling on the floor laughing!!! :)

All the images below are property of their respective authors/owners, they are shared here only for a laugh, click on any image to view the jokes as slideshow.

Well, there is no point if I keep sharing jokes here that make only me laugh, I need to understand what my readers like as well.

So, if any of the jokes above made you laugh, please be honest, take a minute and drop a line in the comments column to let me know which ones made you laugh, that'll help me select similar ones for future posts!! :)

Enjoy your weekend!! :)

Cheers!! 

Love her naked soul...

Are you ready to spend some time in a nice conversation? Well, let's talk about my favourite subject today :) Yes, you guessed it right, romance it is! :)

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This post is inspired by a poem which I wrote 2 years ago, "Poem: Heart to Heart!!" :) When I said, "Our souls naked, In complete honesty", I had a story to tell. These two lines might sound simple but they speak volumes.

In the past, we've had interesting insights into this subject through:

Poem: Do you know how to love your girl?  ;  When I Kiss your Forehead...  ;  How do you treat your Girl?  ;   Not to forget my interpretation of song lyrics in Song of True Love...

I will start the topic by sharing the powerful quote by writer Dominic Matthew Jackson,

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"You think you’ve seen her naked because she took her clothes off? Tell me about her dreams. Tell me what breaks her heart. What is she passionate about, and what makes her cry? Tell me about her childhood. Better yet, tell me one story about her that you’re not in."

"You’ve seen her skin, and you’ve touched her body. But you still know as much about her as a book you once found, but never got around to opening."

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Instead of writing all my thoughts in a long paragraph, I prefer to write them as points to make it easier to read.

1. When you fall in love with a girl, you obviously look into how beautiful her heart is but you need to also look into her soul - do you know why? Cause there you will find the true girl that lives within her.

2. You need to get a soul connection with her, an emotional connection and that happens only when you get a deeper sense of understanding of who she is.

3. Listen to all her childhood stories, learn about what hurts her, what makes me cry, her passions, her hobbies, her interests, her dislikes. So along with knowing every inch of her body, you need to also know every inch of her soul.

4. It is a lot of work, but building a relationship is like building a home - the stronger you lay the foundation, the stronger it grows.

5. Be open, be real and live in the truth of what and who she is and love all of it and don't be afraid to show intimacy. 

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6. You need to have a clear understanding of her - not just the persona she projects to the outside world but the real her, the inner being in her. 

7. Observe on what lies beneath her smile, her tears, her laughter and her silence - you'll know her better the more you observe.

8. When you make her feel home, when she feels most comfortable and ease in your presence, then she's gonna open herself up like a book.

9. Your girl is not just a physical body, she is something more, she is a soul just like you. You will never really know her until you've seen her soul. So, dive into the joyous depths to meet the true her. The day you do that she will treat you right and she will hold on tight.

10. Take the time to reach that depth. Make love to her mind before you make love to her body.

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11. Encourage her, let her turn passionate and she will also learn everything about you and you both will grow together.

12. The day she trusts that you love the real her, she will do anything for you. Most people think that just by living with a girl and having sex - they know the real her. But until you open the book of her soul and genuinely show interest in learning everything about her - you won't really know her.

13. Touch her soul first and when you eventually touch her body, she will feel even more glorious from within her inner self.

14. The true beauty of a woman lies deep beneath her skin, it's in the core of her soul. Beauty is only skin deep. 

15. Travel the journey until you reach her mind and continue until you reach her naked soul, only then you will know the real her.

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16. Every girl has the innate need to be heard, to be touched, to be understood, to be connected and to belong - with an ultimate goal to give and to receive love.

17. There is more to explore in a girl than just her body. So, touch her beyond her body.

18. Just because you love her, she won't be able to open up so easily. So, give her time, it is a journey and not a destination, so travel along with her and enjoy the journey.

19. Let her express her inner feelings one by one and you will get to understand her true self - the self which she talks to when she is on her own.

20. From the day you see her naked soul is the day your love will turn more meaningful.

If you think this post was interesting, do let me know in the comments column.

Have a great week ahead!! :)

Take Care,

Cheers!! :)

6 Golden Rules for a Happy Relationship...

Watched a speech given by Dr. BV Pattabhi Ram this morning about relationships and got inspired by his 6 golden rules for a happy relationship:

1. Say Sorry (The magic word to clear misunderstandings)

2. Thank you (Be grateful for what she does)

3. Will you please (Respect her)

4. What is your opinion (Give value to her opinion)

5. You've done a great job (Appreciate her)

6. I admit, I made a mistake (Admit your mistakes, she will forgive you)

I've made note of these rules and will follow them.

Hope you'll find them useful too.

Cheers!! :)

Poem: A Pure Spirit...

Wishing a very Happy New Year 2016 to all my friends!!! :) 

May 2016 make all your dreams come true and may you be blessed with lots of happiness!!! :)

Wrote this poem today, hope you will find it nice :)

Poem : A Pure Spirit...

Soaked in silent prayer

Enriched with divine intentions

Consumed in deep meditation

Embraced in genuine compassion

Lies a pure spirit, innocent and free

Love, Charan xx