Honest Talk...Part 1

Welcome to the first part of a series of very honest talks wherein I talk about love, romance and relationships - will share most of my favourite quotes and random things which I've learned by observing the world around me, reading books and my attempt to understand this beautiful journey called life.

Pardon me for the errors in my writing. Those who've been reading this blog for a while are aware of the fact that my English isn't perfect but my aim is to express my thoughts, views, opinions and ideas in a simple, clear and easy to understand manner.

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Is there a secret or magic formula to have a relationship like how they show in films, TV or novels? Well, I mean the fairy tale kinda love where the knight in shining armour rescues damsel in distress, they fall in love and live happily ever after.

Have you ever thought such love is practically possible? I'd say why not. But I am afraid they don't happen using a magic wand but they are possible through mutual respect and hard work. 

I remember reading about how to have a lasting high-quality relationship. The author gave a simple yet brilliant answer : "Think of what is best for the relationship first, the children second, your partner third, yourself fourth and the rest of the world absolutely last."

Never call each other a nasty name, never fight in public or in front of others, never cheat on the other, always be honest and open with each other - then sure there is a possibility to have a fantastic relationship.

Let me share a dialogue from the 2014 movie I Origins. Well, I didn't watch the movie, so not sure in which context these lines were said but the lines are romantic.

Ian: I do believe we've known each other since forever.

Sofi: Really?

Ian: Yes. You know how? When the Big Bang happened, all the atoms in the universe were all smashed together into one little dot that exploded outward, so my atoms and your atoms were certainly together then and... who knows, probably smashed together several times in the last 13.7 billion years, so my atoms have known your atoms and they've always known your atoms. My atoms have always loved your atoms.

In the world around me, I've noticed two types of relationships : 

1st type: Man who puts in a minimal effort in the relationship and the woman serves as the pillar of their marriage, taking on most of the domestic, care-taking and child caring responsibilities.

2nd type: Man who invests all his time and efforts into true partnership with his woman. Shares all responsibilities equally - actively participates in domestic household chores, care-taking of the family and in raising the children. Appreciates his woman, gives her freedom, her space and treats her to surprise dinners.

I was born in a family where both my parents and grandparents belong to the 2nd type, so as a child I used to believe that type 2 is the norm in every household. But when I came across examples of type 1, I've realized the stress in those relationships. 

Both the partners are on the journey, so they need to work together, help each other, mentor one and another, discover each other and in process turn into better people - that is the key for a blissful life :)

Well, I've gotta cook my dinner now, so let's continue this talk in Part 2.

Let me conclude this part by sharing the points I like from American author, Robin McKinley's, "8 Ways to Say I Love You".

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I like points 2, 3 and 4, cause they resonate with my kinda thought process.

2. Sigh it into her mouth, wedged in between teeth and tongues. Don’t even let your lips move when you say it, ever so lightly, into the air. Maybe it was just an exhalation of ecstasy.

3. Buy her flowers. Buy her chocolate. Buy her a teddy bear, because that’s what every romantic comedy has taught you. Take her out to a nice restaurant where neither of you feel comfortable and spend the whole night clearing your throat and tugging at your tie. Feel like your actions are more suited to a proposal than the simple confession of something you’ve always known.

4. Whisper it into her hair in the middle of the night, after you’ve counted the space between her breaths and are certain she’s asleep. Shut your eyes quickly when she shifts toward you in askance. Maybe you were just sleep whispering.

But, points 6 and 8 are funny:

6. Write her a letter in which the amount of circumnavigating and angst could rival Mr. Darcy’s. Debate where to leave it all day – on her pillow? In her coat pocket? Throw it away in frustration, conveniently leaving it face up in the trashcan, her name scrawled on the front in your sloppy handwriting. Let her wonder if you meant it.

8. Say it deliberately, your tongue a springboard for every syllable. Over coffee, brushing your teeth side-by-side, as you turn off the light to go to sleep – it doesn’t matter where. Do not adorn it with extra words like “I think” or “I might.” Do not sigh heavily as if admitting it were a burden instead of the most joyous thing you’ve ever done. Look her in the eyes and pray, heart thumping wildly, that she will turn to you and say, “I love you too.”

See you later in Honest Talk...Part 2. Until then, take care.

Have a nice week. :)

Cheers :)